Marathi Matrimony

Pre Wedding Ceremonies:

  • Lagnaach Bedior - This ritual prevailed earlier while their grand families organize a Maharashtrian wedding. The time and date of the wedding are then decided by the family priests.
  • Sakhar Puda - This is the official event of the Marathi matrimony, marked with Sakhar or sweets. Groom's mother applies Haldi-Kumkum on her saree, jewelry, and Sakhar Puda or sweets to the bride's forehead as a blessing and a gift.
  • Kelvan - This ritual is usually accompanied by meals with family and friends.
  • Halad Chadavane - This Maharashtrian brahmin matrimony version of Haldi is performed by the same married women from Muhurta Karane. They use the Haldi paste on the face, shoulders, hands, and feet of the bride with mango mats.
Marathi Matrimony

Wedding Ceremonies:

  • Gurihar Puja - In Gurihar Puja, both of them worship the goddess Parvati for their fulfilling future, wearing wedding attire. The mother's uncle provides her a little rice, and she presents it to the deity.
  • Antarpat - The groom reaches the Mandap and is at a marriage position. In front of the bride is hung Antarpat or a curtain which restricts his view of the bride opposing him.
  • Sankalp - The bride goes then into the Mandap as well as the priest sings with musicians the Mangalashtakas or holy vows.
  • Kanyadaan - The bride's father offers his daughter good wishes to the bridegroom. The bride vows to eternally love and honour her wife.
  • Saptapadhi - The pair circling the holy fire seven times. The bride must tap with her right foot seven betel nuts put on a small mound of rice.
  • Karmasamapti - The pair praise Laxmi Pujan until the flame is exhausted. The groom provides a new name to the bride. Eventually, the bride's brother twists his ear carefully to alert him of his Marathi brahmin matrimony responsibilities, and in the end, the pair takes every blessing.

Typical Maharashtrian weddings are very simple affairs. The focus is on following the customs to the core. Compared to other parts of India, Marathi weddings are very simple. Mostly the customs in Marathi Weddings are vedic based (more so in Marathi Brahmin Weddings). Some customs are different in other sub-castes of Marathi. The extravagance and lavishness is very less in Marathi Weddings compared to other parts of India. Actually each ceremony and custom in Marathi Wedding has its base in Vedas. Now a days some mordenization is also coming up. But basic ceremonies in general are the same and are very simple and traditional.

Maharashtrian weddings are simple because:

  • Occupation : If we have a look at Maharashtra, it has very less natural calamities and is safe for farming. The drought is also recent, otherwise the land in much of MH is fertile. So traditionally most of the people were farmers and turned into warriors when it was needed. Farmers/Warriors don't earn much, that's why most of the Maharashtrian population couldn't afford lavish weddings from the start.
  • Low profile mentality: Values are more important than money is the motto of many people here. Even if they are rich, they remain low profile and are choosy about where to spend. You can pick up any star like Nana patekar, Rajnikant or Sachin.. they love to remain simple or low profile.
  • Against dowry: As the community got more and more educated, dowry system was kicked out of the society. Dowry is now only prevalent in lower or uneducated class of Maharashtrian people. Most of the society doesn't demand dowry which we see still prevalent in many parts of India.
  • Need for education: Instead of spending 50 lakhs on a wedding, you can invest that money in your daughter's or grandchildren's education! That will be much benefitial. No one is going to remember whether they had palak paneer or mutter paneer at your wedding. So out of 50 lakhs, we spend only 10 or 15 on wedding and rest on education.
  • Equality: Spending of money doesn't depend on gender. The girl's family alone is not burdened with the cost of wedding.

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